Father to the man

No doubt I should have been learning more (or at least something) about the Phoenix Park murders, or rereading the turgid pages of Le Baiser au lépreux: I felt a continuous dull guilt that I was neglecting my studies. I wasn’t using my teenage years to take my first fumbling steps towards love, or taking advantage of the days when a small seventeen year-old could buy a pint of bitter unchallenged, as long as he had the money: no, instead I spent many hours buying and selling coins to improve my collection using ads in Exchange and Mart. I must have been fascinating company.

Only later did I understand that indulging my passion for trading had given me good practice for my City career. Luckily I didn’t completely ignore my studies, as I might not have been offered my entry level job at a stockbroking firm without a degree of some sort.

Sometimes your teenage interests suggest – if not always clearly – your direction in adult life. Ten years ago I met up with old school friends Charles and Richard. I remembered Charles at school had enjoyed tinkering with machines: he had become a railway engineer, specialising, when called upon, in crash forensics. Richard, I recalled, used to relish an argument on a point of detail – he had become a lawyer. I was now a City trader. We raised a glass to square pegs in square holes. Sometimes the pieces fit.

But life at school isn’t always a reliable predictor of adult life. I don’t imagine Jem, for example, would have forecast that I would grow into someone who runs marathons for the fun of it.

His name was Jeremy, but we all called him Jem. Perhaps we should have spelled that Gem: he was small and bright – younger than the official age group for our year, but sent ahead because he was clever – also friendly and funny. We were in different forms, but I met him on my first day at Watford Grammar when we found ourselves washing our hands next to each other in the luxurious toilet annexe. Two older boys were using the facilities, and one called out “Hey you two, come over here!” (Relax, this does not go badly.)

We went over there, and were asked to stand with our backs to the wall. “Blimey! You fellows are small!”. One produced a piece of chalk and marked our heights on the wall. He stood back and pronounced Jem narrowly the “winner” – i.e. the shortest boy in the school, he reckoned – and shook our hands. We looked at each other and shrugged, relieved that all the stories we had heard at primary school of blood curdling initiation rites had boiled down to this mild and good-natured ceremony.

I can’t speak for Jem, but I saw my small stature as a badge of honour: I was confident of my academic ability, and gained my self worth from that. In the following years Jem and I would often contend to be top of the year in the fortnightly maths tests – until, that is, my understanding of the subject hit a calculus brick wall.

About five years after our first encounter, we were shivering in Cassiobury Park on a Wednesday afternoon waiting to begin a cross country run. These runs were almost universally unpopular. They took place in the winter when the pitches were too waterlogged for rugby or hockey: as a result it was usually cold, wet, and very muddy. There was the fearsome Jacotts Hill, which seemed to appear in every route, and the ritual instruction to keep to the path as you crossed the golf course – suggesting that, were you slain by a ball, the knowledge that you had been righteous might comfort you as you drew your last breath.

I was competitive. Most boys didn’t try, or didn’t admit to trying – it wasn’t cool, and those who enjoyed sport preferred chasing a ball around. Many slowed to a walk as soon as they were out of sight of the teacher. But I did my honest best, and struggled: typically placing about 80th out of 120 boys, when few ahead of me cared, and probably none behind me. I plainly had no talent for this.

So I no longer put much effort into these runs, and on this day Jem – no great enthusiast either – and I decided to jog round together. It started well enough: we set off about three quarters down the field, and settled into a relaxed jog/walk which left enough breath for conversation. But after a mile or so we noticed that we had lost sight of the Athlete ahead of us, and when we came to the next junction we realised that neither of us had been paying attention when the sports master had been outlining the route.

How lost can you get in a town park? Well there’s nearly 200 acres of Cassiobury Park, and over the next forty minutes we did our best. I might have felt a little annoyance: after all, Jem lived on the Cassiobury estate, dammit. Well I guess he didn’t spend his weekends exploring the park. Our navigation skills were roughly equal. By the time we found the finish line, Beery had given up and gone home, assuming he had miscounted, or perhaps he was indifferent to the fate of the boys in his charge.

So had I asked Jem, as we trudged shivering back to the changing rooms, do you think that in late middle age I’ll run through the very same muddy park regularly, often on cold rainy days, half way through a 21-mile training run, because I want to? Will I run fifteen marathons on thirteen different courses? Then he would have looked at me pityingly, assuming that the trauma of our wanderings in the park had scrambled my brain.

So what changed? In my mid thirties I took stock of my health and realised that I wasn’t getting much exercise: I tried running and became addicted. I found it therapeutic to apply myself to something so simple yet so difficult: as I ran, knots would untangle in my head. And there was the question of control: now running was a choice, I could enjoy it. I wonder if Jem ever caught the running bug?

I’m pretty sure that I haven’t acquired any new talent for running over the past half century. At least I no longer have to worry about navigation when I’m in a big city marathon: there are always plenty of people to follow. But it’s a sport where tenacity and sheer bloody-mindedness count for a lot, and if those are talents, I claim them.

13 thoughts on “Father to the man

  1. I also disliked the runs but they were better than team sports, which were loathsome. But like you Rik, and unlike your brother, I took to running, including cross country runs, after school and university. Different ways of coping with post-traumatic effects of school sport.

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    1. Jem!!! Oh my god, you read it, what are the chances??!! How great to hear from you, hope you’re ok with the unsolicited fame. Please use the contact page so we can catch up!


  2. Memories of cross country runs! Loved that account. I’m afraid I was sometimes one of those that took to hiding in the trees the other side of the canal and waiting to rejoin the very spread out runners on their return from the circuit round the woods – at an appropriate back-end position of course, afterall, it wouldn’t be too bright a trick to get back too early!
    Jacotts Hill though, I do remember having to sample that pleasure a few times… and having to run through the River Gade and not being allowed to use the bridge as well. And you are right, it was always wet muddy weather.
    Thanks for the strangely pleasurable memories!

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    1. Clive, I’m shocked! Shocked! I never had you down for a malingerer. If you ever ran the London Marathon you’d be one of those fellows who turns left at Tower Bridge and appears in the results having run the second half quicker than Mo Farah. So I take it that unlike Jem, you never caught the running bug?


  3. I was one of those uncool boys who enjoyed the cross country running; at least until I realised just HOW uncool it was. I was pretty good at it and represented the school team on a number of occasions. Jacotts hill! If you were lucky (or unlucky) enough to represent the school team you’d spend entire training sessions on that hill. It was drummed into us that mastering Jacotts Hill was the key to success, it was how WBGS ensured we would win all the races on home soil.

    We were instructed to rest on the shoulder of opponents till we got to the base of the hill and then kick off. We would appear super human to our adversaries and completely demoralize them. In one race, my good friend Andy Patmore and I found ourselves just behind a couple of opponents at the foot of the hill. We looked at each other, did we really fancy it? Let’s go. We breezed past the poor lads, getting to the top well ahead of them. By the time they had managed to drag themselves to the top we were almost out of sight. We got home minutes before them.

    But not long after that Andy got wise to this being pretty uncool and quit the team. I was always a step or two behind my peers in such matters, but soon made the same decision. I never caught the bug again, other than periodically taking a jog in seclusion. I found that cycling was kinder on the joints.

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  4. A Post script to my comment. You are not the only one to get lost, although to be fair I wasn’t in any open part of the park. I was in the depths of Whippendell Woods, running round in circles. It took me an age to get out and the training session was long finished by the time I did.

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