A helping hand

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Diversity is a thing these days. Not so much, though, when I was at my boys-only secondary school. In this hormone-rich environment the appointment of a female English teacher or a young laboratory assistant wearing a fashionably short skirt under her lab coat could generate disproportionate excitement.

Of 123 boys, one was of Asian descent, and 122 were white. One of these was Jewish: he was popular, friendly, hardworking and very clever. Sadly he had a heart condition and didn’t make it to 30. Another boy was widely assumed to be gay – correctly, it turned out – and he was much bullied for it. And that was the extent of diversity in our school year, as far as I knew.

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The dawn of the internet made it easier to reconnect with old school friends, and sometime in the 2000s I met up with Charles and Richard, neither of whom I’d seen since the 1970s. Of course there was much catching up, and comparison of the different careers we had chosen, which were still then in progress. Charles had always enjoyed tinkering with machines: he had become a railway engineer, with an occasional foray into crash forensics. Richard used to relish an argument on a point of detail: he had become a corporate lawyer. I had loved buying and selling things as a child, and was a broker and trader in the City. We raised a glass to square pegs in square holes.

Then Richard shared a piece of his family history that he had never mentioned at school. His father Hans was Jewish, and had grown up in Germany in the 1930s. In early 1939, when he was about seventeen, his parents encouraged him to take up an entry visa arranged by Marks and Spencer with one of their suppliers so that he could come to the UK to be an apprentice cotton weaver. He met a girl who became his wife, and eventually they settled near Watford and had a family.

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Marks and Spencer co-founder Michael Marks was a Polish Jew, and his son Simon inherited the business and grew it into a retail giant. In the 1930s Simon Marks and his fellow directors used the substantial influence of M&S in England to help the cause of Jewish refugees by raising money, obtaining the support of influential politicians, and making the American Jewish community aware of the persecution of German and other European Jews. Their management and staff worked tirelessly to help refugees escape from Europe in the years before the war, setting up a legal structure to bring people and at least some of their possessions out of countries where they faced persecution.

Richard’s paternal grandparents were sent to a the Łódź Ghetto in Poland. After they boarded a train to the east, they were never heard of again. Richard said he had hidden his Jewish identity while at school at his father’s insistence: his father’s bitter experience was that there was nothing to be gained, and perhaps much lost from being open about his religion. Richard had attended school assemblies containing Christian worship without complaint. I asked him whether his father was himself open about being Jewish. “He doesn’t have a choice” was the response. It is a sobering thought that he did not feel safe from anti-Semitism in 1960s England. I reflected on how we had known nothing in our schooldays of the trauma which had occurred in Richard’s family.

Marks and Spencer don’t make as much as they might of this very honourable part of their history. Their efforts to save refugees were entwined with early support for Zionism, an extremely controversial subject. And perhaps, like Hans, they see reasons for playing down that part of their heritage.

Many thanks to Richard for permitting me to tell his and his father’s story.

13 responses to “A helping hand”

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    Anonymous

    Absolutely fascinating. How many other stories were there that you were not aware of? Everybody has a story of some sort.

    Was that 120 boys at Watford Grammar in your year? Approximately the same at Northampton Grammar but I don’t remember any female teachers.

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    1. Rik Avatar

      Thanks Andrew. Yes, about 120, but the following year it was expanded to 150. The first female teacher I remember was Mrs Sherman, who taught us English. We were wild with excitement.

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    Anonymous

    Rik,

    Thanks, a fascinating read that brought back memories. My Grammar was much the same. (This is the mid-60’s.) I remember two Ugandan Asians arriving (a few years below me). They were personable and seemed to get on OK.

    There was one Jewish boy, again a year or two below me. Unfortunately he was picked on, I remember, but he seemed, to be honest, an eminently pick-on-able swot. I don’t think he was picked on because of his religious background at first, but someone must have used it to justify what they were doing. I do remember that when I was a school prefect I extricated him from a potential pile-on in the playground.

    He was actually a nice lad, but obviously a loner. I’m sure his family history would have contained tragedy, but you didn’t think to ask, of course.

    The school didn’t really know what to do with him (or the Ugandan Asians) at morning assembly – so they were sent in with the Catholics (all two dozen of them!)

    Biff

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    1. Rik Avatar

      Thanks Biff. Yes, I’m sure there were many interesting stories behind our schoolmates, if they wanted to tell them and if we cared to listen.

      It sounds like you were a much more effective prefect than I was, good work!

      We had one Catholic in our class who was excused assembly. We envied the opportunity this gave him to finish (or do) his homework.

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  3. obbverse Avatar

    Oh yes, there was much abuse of anyone seen to be ‘outside the norm.’ My parents somehow survived the European nightmare of 39-45 and met and married as barely out of their teens displaced persons in Canada. They both rarely mentioned the war, though in his drinking days Dad had nothing nice to say (or shout) about the Germans. I guess a piece of German shrapnel lodged in his skull till the day he died was a permanent reminder of a bloody rough childhood.

    In the 60’s, as a schoolkid, even here in relatively liberal NZ I took to keeping a low profile and Anglicised my first name as best I could. You grew a thick skin at best and rolled with the punches at worst. (Or is that bratwurst?🙄)

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    1. Rik Avatar

      Thanks o. Wow, it sounds like your parents could have told some amazing stories. But like a lot of people who survived the war, perhaps they didn’t want to – they were just glad they could put it behind them.

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      1. obbverse Avatar

        Exactly.

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    Peter Neal

    Rik, were you too late to be taught religious knowledge by Ma Marrow. She may not have been young or wear fashionably short skirts, but she was definitely female.

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    1. Rik Avatar

      I think so Peter. Neither she nor Ben were there when I started in September 1967. I had my RE from the great Dr Raper and my Scripture from the not-so-great Fanny Lister.

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      1. obbverse Avatar

        Those names sound like a bad set-up for a joke. A Raper and a Sister Fanny Lister????

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      2. Rik Avatar

        😆 Boys will be boys. But yes, he was really called Raper.

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  5. atrebatus Avatar
    atrebatus

    A very interesting read. I was reminded that I should have asked my Dad more about his childhood at a children’s home and about his wartime RAF service.

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    1. Rik Avatar

      I know. I only became interested in family history after my father died and I found his family tree papers. So many questions I would like to ask.

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